Dr. Tracy D | Couples Therapist

You Don't Have a Desire Problem. You Have a Conditions Problem.

If you used to want sex and now you don't — or it just doesn't show up the way it once did — this episode is for you. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish breaks down one of the most common (and most misunderstood) issues she sees in her therapy room: low desire. Not the "something is broken" version. The real version — where life, kids, mental load, and depletion quietly change the conditions that make desire possible in the first place. In this episode, you'll learn: The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire — and why most people have it backwards Why scheduling sex and "just initiating" can actually make things worse What Dr. Rosemary Basson's research reveals about how desire really works (especially for women) The one question to ask instead of "what's wrong with me?" What higher-desire partners get wrong when they try to back off How to start co-creating the conditions for desire — together This is the sex ed you never got. Whether you're the partner who's lost the wanting or the partner who feels shut out, this conversation will give you a new framework — and a place to actually start. Subscribe to @drtracyd for more videos on relationships, managing your in-law dynamic, mental health, and psychology. Hey there! I’m Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert. I take the concepts, tools, and exercises that I use with real couples everyday and show you how you can implement them in your life and in your relationships. Backed by evidence and real clinical experience. Here are some of my useful links: My NEW book: You, Your Husband, and His Mother https://www.drtracyd.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother My bestselling book: I Didn't Sign Up for This https://drtracyd.com/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-this#/ My Relationship Support Program | Be Connected https://drtracyd.com/be-connected 🎧 Podcast | https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast 📷 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ 💻 Website | https://www.drtracyd.com/ 🧵Threads | https://www.threads.net/@drtracyd 📒 Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/