Why Your Spouse Makes You So Angry | Ron and Nan Deal

Every marriage has moments where old wounds, fear, and frustration can take over before we even realize what is happening. In this episode of Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, Ron and Nan Deal share honestly about the breaking points in their marriage, the grief of losing their son Connor, and how God began healing deep patterns of pain, reactivity, and self-protection. In this video, you’ll learn: 🔹 Why couples can get stuck in the same painful arguments for years 🔹 How childhood wounds and emotional triggers affect marriage 🔹 What it means to “manage yourself” instead of trying to fix your spouse 🔹 How Ron and Nan found hope after grief, addiction, and marital strain 🔹 Practical ways to move from a pain cycle into a peace cycle Their story is honest, tender, and deeply hopeful for anyone who feels stuck, weary, or unsure whether healing is still possible. Get your copy of Ron and Nan Deal's book, "The Mindful Marriage" here: https://bit.ly/3PO2fJF --- Chapters: 0:00 When Marriage Reaches a Breaking Point 3:30 “It’s Either You or Me” 7:15 The Counseling Moment That Changed Everything 11:05 How Faith and Therapy Work Together 15:20 Why Your Spouse Can Feel Like a Threat 19:20 Learning to Manage Your Own Reactions 23:40 Replacing False Beliefs with God’s Truth 27:00 A Real-Life Example of Breaking the Cycle 30:15 Grieving the Loss of Their Son Connor 39:00 Nan’s Bottoming-Out Moment and God’s Healing --- Check out Focus on the Family on social media! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusonthefamily Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focusonthefamily X: https://twitter.com/FocusFamily --- #FocusontheFamily#ChristianMarriage #MarriageHelp #RonAndNanDeal #TheMindfulMarriage #MarriageRestoration #FaithAndFamily #ChristianCounseling