How to Understand Resentment

Is resentment slowly killing your relationship? It might not be what you think it is. Most people mistake resentment for anger — but they're completely different. Anger is loud. Resentment is quiet. It's the slow erosion that builds in the silences, the unasked questions, and the needs that stopped being voiced because nothing ever changed. In this video, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish breaks down what resentment actually is (hint: it's grief), how it builds stage by stage, and — most importantly — how you can start to heal it before it becomes the silent death of your relationship. You'll learn: Why resentment is grief, not anger — and why that changes everything The 5 stages of how resentment builds in a relationship What "scorekeeping" is doing to your connection The warning sign most partners completely miss Why "she stopped complaining" is NOT a good sign How to come back from even the deepest shutdown Whether you're the one who's exhausted from asking, or the partner who "never saw it coming" — this conversation is for you. Subscribe to @drtracyd for more videos on relationships, managing your in-law dynamic, mental health, and psychology. Hey there! I’m Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert. I take the concepts, tools, and exercises that I use with real couples everyday and show you how you can implement them in your life and in your relationships. Backed by evidence and real clinical experience. Here are some of my useful links: My NEW book: You, Your Husband, and His Mother https://www.drtracyd.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother My bestselling book: I Didn't Sign Up for This https://drtracyd.com/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-this#/ My Relationship Support Program | Be Connected https://drtracyd.com/be-connected 🎧 Podcast | https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast 📷 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ 💻 Website | https://www.drtracyd.com/ 🧵Threads | https://www.threads.net/@drtracyd 📒 Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ 0:00 - Understanding the difference between anger and resentment. 0:25 - Resentment as a quiet, slow-building emotion. 1:14 - Exploring the concept of resentment as a form of grief. 3:38 - Unmet needs and the pattern of resentment. 4:54 - How scorekeeping contributes to resentment. 6:10 - The emotional shutdown and its impact on relationships. 7:30 - The dangers of silence in a relationship. 8:20 - Recognizing resentment as a symptom and a call for change. 9:42 - Resentment is not the end of the story.