How You Communicate Changes Everything

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the other person heard something completely different from what you said? This week, Candace sits down with licensed therapist, coach, and author Jason Van Ruler to start a six-week series on the five communication types he outlines in his book “Discovering Your Communication Type.” Right from the start, this one feels less like a lecture and more like finally getting words for something you've always sensed about yourself. Jason introduces the PATHS framework: Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, and Spark, and the conversation digs into the first type: the Peacemaker. If you've ever found yourself working overtime to keep everyone okay, managing the energy in a room without anyone even knowing, this episode is going to feel very familiar. A listener question from Bethany about her husband's phone use leads to a line from Jason that could genuinely shift a marriage: "If it matters to you, it matters to me." Sign up for email updates, grab the free Healthy Connection Guide with Jason's communication type assessment, and learn how to buy Jason’s course “Communicate to Connect” at candace.com. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! What's Inside 0:00 -- Intro and sponsor messages 4:30 -- Welcome and new season intro 5:10 -- Meet Jason VanRuler 8:00 -- The PATHS framework 12:00 -- Comparing PATHS to The Five Love Languages 14:15 -- What the six-episode series will cover 16:00 -- Deep dive: the Peacemaker 18:30 -- How communication types form 22:00 -- Peacemaker strengths and the school trip illustration 24:30 -- Where Peacemakers get stuck: emotional regulation and the cost of managing others 27:00 -- Jason's story: the friend who worked overtime= 30:30 -- Sponsor message (PHD Weight Loss) 32:00 -- Sponsor messages (316 Financial, Grand Canyon University) 33:30 -- Listener question from Bethany 38:00 -- Candace's own take 41:00 -- "If it matters to you, it matters to me" -- Jason's marriage-shifting line 43:00 -- Healthy Connection Guide 43:30 -- Sign-off #candace #candacecameron #candacecameronbure #candacecameronburepodcast #podcast #christianpodcast #jasonvanruler #discoveringyourcommunicationtype #communicationtypes #communicationskills #communicationtips #marriagecommunication #relationshipadvice #christianrelationships #faithandrelationships #peacemaker #howtocommuicate #conflictresolution #emotionalintelligence #listenerbetter #selfawareness #personalitytypes #therapisttips #licensedtherapist #counseing #christiantherapy #mentalhealth #christianmentalhealth #phoneinmarriage #screentime #marriagetips #marriageadvice #howtofightwithyourspouse #communicatingwithyourhusband #communicatingwithyourwife #lovelanguages #fivelovelanguages #candaceburepodcast #newpodcastepisode #podcastforwomen #christianpodcastforwomen #faithpodcast Sponsors: NuEthix -- CortEaz supports healthy cortisol levels and helps regulate your stress response. NuLytes electrolytes come in single-serving packets with sodium, potassium, and magnesium -- zero sugar, zero calories, lightly sweetened with stevia. Watermelon is Candace's go-to flavor. Use code Candace (capital C) for a discount. Links in show notes. PHD Weight Loss -- PHD Weight Loss helps your body become metabolically flexible by addressing metabolism, mindset, and habits together.Call 864-644-1900 for a free personalized consultation or visit myphdweightloss.com. Tell them Candace sent you. 316 Financial -- An online bank that gives 10% of profits back to faith-based ministries. Visit bank316.com/ccb and use promo code CCB. Grand Canyon University -- An affordable, private, non-profit Christian university based in Phoenix, Arizona. Academically rigorous, industry-driven programs grounded in Christian truth. Visit gcu.edu. International Fellowship of Christians and Jews -- Providing food, medicine, and care to elderly men and women in Israel, including Holocaust survivors. Visit ifcj.org/candace. Each season of The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast features one guest for a deep exploration of a single theme, encouraging viewers to grow in their experiences of faith, family and purposeful living. --- Best known as ‘D.J Tanner’ in the hit television series “Full House” and Netflix’s “Fuller House,” and as the actor and director who takes over your television around Christmas time.  Candace is also a New York Times bestselling author, entrepreneur, and CEO of CandyRock Entertainment. Candace has been interviewed many times over her decades on television, and in her podcast she hosts deep conversations with experts. Keep up with Candace: Candace's Website: https://candacecbure.com/ The Podcast Website: https://ccbpodcast.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/candacecbure/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candacecameron TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candacecameronb Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/candacecbure/