When you think of them you send them energy and it PUSHES them away

When you want them, they pull away... but once you let them go, they start chasing you. In this video, I break down why letting go only works when it’s real surrender, not a tactic to get something. You’ll learn how pulling your energy back, doing inner child work, and releasing control changes your energy—and your entire life. 00:00 — Why Wanting Someone Pushes Them Away 01:07 — Letting Go as a Tactic vs Real Surrender 02:23 — Letting Go to Get Is Still Control 03:35 — Attachment as a Childhood Control Strategy 04:48 — Anxious & Avoidant Patterns Explained 06:03 — “I’m Good Either Way” and True Detachment 07:05 — Pulling Your Energy Back Into Your Own Life 08:17 — No Contact vs Energetic Detachment 09:26 — Why People Come Back When You Stop Needing Them 10:23 — Letting Go Only Works Without an Agenda 11:25 — Trying to Attract Love Repels Connection 12:34 — The Paradox of Fully Letting Go 13:45 — Performance, Control & Inner Child Survival 15:02 — “What Do I Need to Do?” as a Core Pattern 17:46 — Acceptance, Feeling Emotions & Real Freedom