The Life-Changing Power of Making Repairs w/ Dr. Sarah Michaud

Making amends, making repairs is even more powerful than self forgiveness or self-compassion. When you learn to fix the harms you've caused you can truly find emotional freedom. Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Where to find Dr. Sarah Michaud https://www.youtube.com/@leavingcrazytown https://drsarahmichaud.com/ Ted Talk: Our story of rape and reconciliation - Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyPoqFcvt9w In this conversation, Dr. Sarah Michaud and I explore the profound themes of self-compassion, forgiveness, and the importance of making amends. We discuss how guilt and shame can manifest in our lives and the courage required to face our mistakes. Practical steps for making amends are outlined, emphasizing the concept of 'living amends' as a transformative practice. Our discussion also highlights the significance of perspective in understanding others' experiences and the role of communication in healing relationships. Ultimately, the conversation underscores that healing is a continuous journey that necessitates accountability and personal growth. 00:00 The Importance of Making Amends 01:03 Self-Forgiveness vs. Making Repairs 04:37 Making Repairs Instead of Rationalizing Harm 9:12 Why Victimhood and Self-Blame Prevent Relationship Repair 13:28 The Path to Liberation Through Accountability 16:11 The Power of Honesty and Vulnerability 17:09 Practical Steps to Making Amends 22:12 Understanding the 12 Steps of Recovery to Repair Relationships 24:10 Why Making Amends Lightens the Emotional Load 25:36 How Anger Can Block Repairing Relationships 26:06 How Secrets and Unrepaired Harm Affect Mental Health 27:28 How Repairing Relationships Creates Freedom for Both Sides 28:50 Making Amends Is a Human Skill, Not a Failure 33:39 Making Repairs: Practical Considerations 37:20 Living Amends: Making Repairs When You Cannot Fix the Past 45:47 Avoid "Rogue Amends": The Safe Way to Start Making Repairs 47:03 When Making Repairs Isn't Necessary 49:22 The "Lens Back" Technique: A New Perspective on Repairing Relationships 52:42 The Spiritual Freedom of Making Amends and Clearing Your Conscience 58:16 Start with One Small Step When Making Amends in a Relationship 01:00:29 Owning Your Part When Making Repairs 01:06:30 The Life-Changing Power of Daily Practices Toward Making Amends Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell FREE Mental Health Resources: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/free-resources Check out my podcast, Therapy in a Nutshell: https://tinpodcast.podbean.com/ Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 988 or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC