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An exploration of the concept of ‘red flags’ — possible warning signs of bad actors. You can support the channel at: https://www.patreon.com/TheraminTrees -- opening quote: Stella: Once it was: See somebody, get excited, get married. Now it’s: Read a lot of books, fence with a lot of four-syllable words, psychoanalyse each other until you can’t tell the difference between a petting party and a civil service exam! Jeff: Well that’s fine Stella. Now would you fix me a sandwich please? [home nurse Stella lectures an incapacitated Jeff in Alfred Hitchcock’s Rear Window (1954)] -- 0:00 the appeal of red flags 1:14 a troublesome concept 2:33 positive ‘love-bombing’? 3:11 the zabaglione effect 4:28 red flags vs red lights 5:44 assessing motives 6:26 case study: ‘Isak‘ 6:48 style vs substance 7:52 a questionable benchmark 8:58 assessing a new relationship 9:49 mirroring 10:32 interrogation 10:55 overblown expressions of trust 11:32 love bombing 11:42 rush to commit 12:52 mood swings 13:19 silent treatments 13:51 dominance tests 14:25 ambivalence 14:48 unfit partners don’t need to be ‘monsters’ 15:54 the revamp 17:14 summary -- music © TheraminTrees Full original music tracks used in videos are available to patreon supporters who pledge at the $1 per video level.