Why Being 'Frozen' is the Worst Decision You Can Make

So many of us avoid making decisions because we think it keeps us safe… but not choosing IS a choice. And usually, it’s the choice that keeps us stuck. In today’s video, I break down why we freeze, overthink, and stay in limbo even when we know we deserve more. If you’ve been avoiding a decision — a situationship, a job change, a boundary, a hard conversation — this episode will help you understand why and finally move forward. I share a personal moment of sitting on my bathroom floor, overthinking something for weeks, before realizing that my silence was already making the decision for me. In this video, we’ll talk about the psychology behind indecision, how childhood trauma and people-pleasing shape our patterns, and why our brain chooses the familiar (even when it hurts). We also explore the hidden anxiety cost of avoiding choices, why women in particular are conditioned to fear being “wrong,” and how this leads to staying small in relationships, work, and life. We also unpack real-life examples: staying in a situationship hoping it changes, freezing on a career move because the unknown feels terrifying, avoiding boundary-setting because conflict feels unsafe, and staying silent because it’s what kept the peace in childhood. Each one shows how not choosing is the automatic choice that keeps old patterns alive. More videos: I haven't been honest with you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULyItcZXwV8&t=226s How childhood emotional neglect shows up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnqksJS78l0&t=17s My life feels out of control: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hUDFHCw2_m0&t=28s My new book is available now! Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. More books: Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY Therapy: While I don't offer online therapy, get connected with a licensed therapist through my sponsor BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/kati (Get 10% OFF your first month) Partnerships: Contact Linnea Toney at [email protected] Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.