The Unspoken Beliefs That Change a Relationship

What if the quiet beliefs you carry into motherhood are doing more damage to your marriage than the arguments you keep having? In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Cassidy — licensed therapist, host of the Holding Space podcast, and author of the new book Mom Needs a Moment (June 16, 2026) — to unpack the unspoken beliefs that quietly reshape a relationship after having a baby. Dr. Cassidy opens up about her own traumatic C-section, undiagnosed postpartum anxiety, the intrusive thoughts she didn't realize she could name, and her husband's postpartum depression (the focus of her dissertation research). She walks us through the moment she finally stepped off her "porcelain throne of bullsh*t" and asked for help — and what it took to actually heal. Then Tracy and Cassidy move through five common beliefs that show up over and over in the couples they work with — the ones that quietly run the show in modern motherhood. Beliefs like I'm failing, I'm carrying everything, and there's no room for me anymore. This conversation is for any mom — or partner — who has felt like the margins of their life have been swallowed whole, and who is ready to make space for restorative rest, real connection, and the kind of vulnerability that breaks the cycle. Order Dr. Cassidy's new book Mom Needs a Moment https://www.drcassidymft.com/book Subscribe to @drtracyd for more videos on relationships, managing your in-law dynamic, mental health, and psychology. Hey there! I’m Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert. I take the concepts, tools, and exercises that I use with real couples everyday and show you how you can implement them in your life and in your relationships. Backed by evidence and real clinical experience. Here are some of my useful links: My NEW book: You, Your Husband, and His Mother https://www.drtracyd.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother My bestselling book: I Didn't Sign Up for This https://drtracyd.com/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-this#/ My Relationship Support Program | Be Connected https://drtracyd.com/be-connected 🎧 Podcast | https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast 📷 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ 💻 Website | https://www.drtracyd.com/ 🧵Threads | https://www.threads.net/@drtracyd 📒 Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/