Why Feeling Out of Control is so Triggering

When life feels unpredictable or overwhelming, it can trigger anxiety and a deep need to control what’s happening. In this video, I open up about my own struggles with feeling out of control and share how I traced that reaction back to old patterns of perfectionism and needing to get everything “right” to feel safe. We’ll talk about how those beliefs can resurface under stress—and how to use practical tools like cognitive reframing, breaking the freeze response, and somatic grounding to move from chaos to calm. More unfiltered content: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqxMGZ1jTkj_mR_bxi1Pl1kV I need a break: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_4bBcCfm1w&list=PL_loxoCVsWqxMGZ1jTkj_mR_bxi1Pl1kV&index=7&t=261s Why I feel so lonely: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kbz9tkbW_gc&list=PL_loxoCVsWqxMGZ1jTkj_mR_bxi1Pl1kV&index=19&t=112s These approaches have helped me shift from helplessness to empowerment, and I hope they can help you, too. Share in the comments if you’ve found your own ways to regulate when things feel out of control. My new book! Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. More books: Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY Therapy: While I don't offer online therapy, get connected with a licensed therapist through my sponsor BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/kati (Get 10% OFF your first month) Partnerships: Contact Linnea Toney at [email protected] Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.