Candace Cameron Bure

Are You a Harbor or a Spark?

A quick note before you listen: Due to a mix-up behind the scenes, the episode you're about to hear was originally intended to air earlier in this series. If you're following along week by week, you may notice that Episode 3 and this week's episode were accidentally released in reverse order. The good news? Each conversation stands beautifully on its own, and we're grateful you're here for the journey with us. Thank you for your grace as we keep the conversation going! Now, enjoy the episode. Have you ever been around someone who made you feel like your feelings actually mattered? Or tried for months to get through to someone you love, only to catch one brief moment where they let you in? Jason opens up about being a Harbor himself, the feeler of the group, the one who makes space for everyone else's emotions and often forgets to need that space too. He shares the story of a therapist on a bus who had spent a career being a Harbor for others and had never once had one for herself. The loneliness in that is real, and so is the beauty of what a Harbor offers when it's healthy. Then there's the Spark. The one who lights up a room, gets every conversation going, and sometimes vanishes the moment things get heavy. Download the free Healthy Connection Guide and join the Together Community at candace.com. Sign up for email updates at candace.com. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! What's Inside 0:00 -- Intro and sponsors 4:22 -- Listener question: helping a three-year-old who worries 10:15 -- Introducing the Harbor communication type 16:40 -- Harbor strengths, the scripture behind it, and the wound that shapes it 22:10 -- Harbor in leadership and the feelings-versus-truth tension 27:45 -- Introducing the Spark communication type 33:20 -- How to reach a Spark in a real relationship 37:05 -- Full PATHS recap 38:30 -- Listener question: navigating a resistant twelve-year-old #candace #candacecameron #candacecameronbure #candacecameronburepodcast #podcast #christianpodcast #jasonvanruler #jasonvanrulerpaths #communicationtypes #pathscommunication #harborcommunicationtype #sparkcommunicationtype #communicationstyles #relationshipadvice #christianrelationships #parentingadvice #christianparenting #teengirls #raisingkids #communicationinmarriage #marriage #christianmarriage #empathy #emotionalintelligence #worryinkids #anxiouskids #parentingtips #communicatingwithteens #peacemaker #advocate #thinker #harbor #spark #counseling #christiancounseling #therapist #selfimprovement #personalitytypes #personalityassessment #meaningfulconversations #deepconnection #familyrelationships Sponsors PHD Weight Loss -- PHD Weight Loss helps your body work with you again by addressing metabolism, mindset, and habits together. Their approach helps clients become metabolically flexible, reducing cravings and stabilizing energy, while whole, nutrient-dense meal plans ease the transition. Call 864-644-1900 for a free personalized consultation, or visit myphdweightloss.com. Tell them Candace sent you. International Fellowship of Christians and Jews -- IFCJ provides food, medicine, and care to elderly Jewish men and women in Israel, including Holocaust survivors. Visit ifcj.org/candace to help meet real, practical needs. Grand Canyon University -- GCU is an affordable, private, nonprofit Christian university in Phoenix, Arizona offering academically rigorous, industry-driven programs. Visit gcu.edu to learn more. 316 Financial -- 316 Financial is an online bank with no monthly fees and free ATM access nationwide that gives 10% of profits back to faith-based ministries. Open a savings account, maintain an average balance of $5,000 for 150 consecutive days, and they will add $250 to your account. Visit bank316.com/ccb and use promo code CCB. Banking services provided by 316 Financial, a division of Primus Bank Member FDIC. Each season of The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast features one guest for a deep exploration of a single theme, encouraging viewers to grow in their experiences of faith, family and purposeful living. --- Best known as ‘D.J Tanner’ in the hit television series “Full House” and Netflix’s “Fuller House,” and as the actor and director who takes over your television around Christmas time.  Candace is also a New York Times bestselling author, entrepreneur, and CEO of CandyRock Entertainment. Candace has been interviewed many times over her decades on television, and in her podcast she hosts deep conversations with experts. Keep up with Candace: Candace's Website: https://candacecbure.com/ The Podcast Website: https://ccbpodcast.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/candacecbure/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candacecameron TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candacecameronb Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/candacecbure/